Tender

Tender

Saturday, December 11, 2010

11 for 2011 on day 11 (#reverb10)

#Reverb10, Day 11: 11 Things 
What are 11 things your life doesn’t need in 2011? How will you go about eliminating them? How will getting rid of these 11 things change your life? (Author: Sam Davidson)

Just 11? Here's my first thought stream of consciousness

1. food as comfort
2. procrastination
3. feeling sorry for myself
4. saying yes when I mean no
5. saying no to avoid thinking about it
6. worry
7. fear
8. guilt
9. weed control
10. the need for recognition
11. All the pairs of shoes I'm never going to wear again

As for how...well, that's more than today's post I'm afraid. How is my life work. Except the shoes and weed control. Weed control: cancelled. Shoes: donated. Done.

Hey, only 9 left!

5 comments:

  1. your life work is the part that matters, and these are things most of us need to eliminate. Easier said than done, but no one said it would be easy...

    ReplyDelete
  2. Way to go with getting rid of two of these already! Best of luck with the rest!

    ReplyDelete
  3. hhmmm... I would argue that we all need fear and worry. There is a lot of talk in the world that wants us to be "positive" all the time, but I don't think that is necessarily the way to self-understanding. Or to a healthy self- realization. Perhaps it's more about creating the negative ways that we see these "darker" parts of ourselves. I mean, all of this is really real to us. It's the "denial" of the self -- in any of its forms -- that makes us do # 5, right?

    Embracing the shadow, my friend Don used to call it. Accepting the darkness as a real part of who you are allows you to be free of the judgments we lay on ourselves when we are on that place.

    ReplyDelete
  4. Thank you, Elizabeth. I am definitely a person who dances with the dark, and it's a good reminder about judging around that. For me, fear manifests as anxiety. Fear for the fate of humanity may drive me forward, but fear of failure, fear of rejection, a whole lot of fears I can do without. I doubt I'll even scratch the surface of those, so there's little chance I'll manage to purge it to the point of causing problems. Worry, on the other hand, is not helpful once I have done my work in understanding it, and done all I can do within my power to deal with whatever is causing it. When a lot is still outside my power, I worry, and that doesn't serve me at all.

    Thanks for making me delve deeper - I have found that keeping the posts short (and daily) keeps me pretty surface.

    ReplyDelete
  5. I have noticed that I dance with Procrastination a bit too often too. I quite liked your #5 - it made me pause and reflect. Do I say NO to avoid thinking about something? I might.

    Thank you for that wake-up!

    ReplyDelete

Note: Only a member of this blog may post a comment.